And the winner is......

PETEYG!!!!

I'm so sorry for the delay in announcing a winner.

Just in case you forgot, You have just won Why Good Things Happen to Good People by Dr. Stephen Post and Jill Neimark

Send me an email to herandtheboys@gmail.com and I will get this to you right away! Congrats PeteyG and thank you for being a faithful reader and I appreciate all of your feedback. 

I'm Back...Anxiety and All

Oh how I have missed you!

So I'm sitting here, trying to figure out what to write. I have tons to write about but where do I start first? My anxiety is overwhelming today and it's very distracting.

This has been a very stressful and exciting month. We spent the beginning of the month putting our office together (pictures to come later). We were doing this so that my father-in-law would have a place to sleep when he was here (don't worry, he slept on a bed and not a desk :)). First off, this was my first time meeting him after 7 years of being with Adam. Second, he was coming out to watch my hubby graduate. Yes, he graduated and I couldn't be more proud of him. Adam is.... (my anxiety is turning my brain to mush right now)...I just don't have the words to describe him. My heart is filled with happiness for my husband. It was a long time coming and a lot of hard work and dedication...You are the man babe. And on top of that graduated with 3 honors and one of them being Magna Cum Laude. He is such a scholastic rock-star!

Back to the whole  in-law thing....It was quite interesting meeting my father-n-law. I think I will save this one for another time....it can get complicated.

uh- I have so much to say, I just can't stay focused! Anyone else have this problem?

Oh yes! Adam and I went to a presentation on male-female communication by Alison Armstrong..more on that later....

As you can see I'm making myself notes on topics to write about.....just bear with me. I also realized that I totally spaced out on the last giveaway, so stay tuned for the winner. I will be back this evening after my math homework (this is also giving me anxiety). I think that I should vow to not drink coffee and maybe some yoga would help, thoughts?

Boobies or Formula? Does it matter?...TIMES BREASTFEEDING COVER

I can't believe that I have gone this long without writing.....

I keep a list of things (in my head) that I want to write about. And this list is loooooong. Adam is graduating next week! Woo Hoo! and my in-laws are coming into town. I still have school and trying to keep my house clean and tidy is impossible. Don't mind me for blurting out my thoughts...

So yesterday I read this article and it was about the TIMES cover. It was in regards to the controversy that the cover stirred up. On the cover was a mother breastfeeding her 3 year old son. Honestly, I was a little taken back. Because it's not everyday that you see a women breastfeeding her toddler. So of course its going to be shocking. I just can't imagine taking the time to try and breast feed C1, it just wouldn't work for us. But if it works for her than woo hoo. I think she is an awesome mom for providing her kids with the essential nutrients that they need. Around the world, children are breastfeed until they are 5 or 6. It's only here in a America that we find a picture like this disturbing.

Anyways, I completely judged her and thought she is probably one of those "breast feeding Nazi's" (I do not apologize for being politically incorrect and I totally judged her). Shes not! I subscribe to BlogHer and they posted something about what she wrote on her blog, iamnotthebabysitter.com ( I would have linked her blog but I think it crashed), 10 Things Breast Feeding Advocates Need To Stop Saying.

Finally! A breast feeding advocate that sticks up for women who don't or didn't breast feed. I was several times "attacked" because I didn't breast feed. It was very painful, I didn't produce enough and then with both deliveries I contracted a kidney infection. The medication that I was on was not safe to take and breast feed. I eventually dried up being on this medication. I got so much slack for it! I constantly was explaining myself and I shouldn't have to do that. And of course I put up a defense for any women trying to push breast feeding on me, hence the "breast feeding Nazi" name.

To the women that are "breast feeding nazi's", read the article and cut us mom's who didn't breast feed some slack. And you know what, it's just better that you mind your own business. Thank you Jamie Lynn Grumet for sticking up for women like me. I think whether you breast feed or not, doesn't determine if you are a great mom. I am great mom who gave my boys formula.

Come into my personal life....

It's been a while since I was able to write. Again, life has taken precedents over my blog (boo hoo). But sitting here amongst my piles of math homework, I decided to take a minute to share something with you, my faithful readers.

Tonight, my husband texted me while he was at school, to tell me he had something for me. When he got home, I had already forgot due to the craziness coming from my kids bedroom. I was just getting ready to sit down to concur the thing they call math when he dropped a letter on my books. I opened it and read...

First I want to remind you: remember when I wrote that piece about making the frame and writing on it? Well if you don't read it first before you go on because then this will make more sense.

There are times when I'm pretty un-emotional. But this was not one of those times. I literally could not stop smiling and even dropped a few tears. I want to share with you what he wrote. Now I know this should be personal between him and I but I want to share the kind of love that we have. I want everyone to have this love. I also want to note, I'm not gloating or bragging. This thing called love is so beautiful and it's an amazing feeling to know that you can still feel this way after 5 years of marriage, especially in our chaotic life. Enjoy because this is the real deal....(I apologize now for the foul language and I'm also not a drunk, I just don't like water, lol). Welcome to my personal life.....

 

Here it is typed out just in case it is too difficult to read.

"I love you because...

You always STAND behind me

You can never stay mad at me

You gave me a beautiful family

You dance like a fool...and don't care

You do my laundry..and put it away

you are a chef extrodinaire

you say "fucking" as much as I do

You are Sexy!!!

You drink more beer than water

You are Sexy!!!

You think a good time is sitting at home watching TV with me

You are a great writer

You want to grow old with me

you eat candy at midnight with me

I probably don't tell you enough that I really love you! I say it to you every day but I probably don't really tell you enough. You are a beautiful, sexy, amazing woman and I am very lucky to have you in my life. You are a wonderful wife and mother and I'm so excited at the prospect of the rest of our life together. I hope that I can always give you everything you want and need. Thank you for supporting me through all of the madness of work school and whatever else I do. 

Love me, forever.

If we can't trust teachers, who can we trust?

I was beyond floored when I read this article and watched the video. You must watch the video: all the way through. Clear your schedule for at least 20 minutes. You will need the extra few minutes to gain your composure.

I was just about in tears. It broke my heart to listen to this man's child, Akian, cry. I was absolutely disgusted with the way the TEACHERS treated him. Teacher's of all people.

I remember being a young pre-teen and I used to be a teachers aid in the special education class. It was very hard and you needed massive amounts of patience. It takes a special person to teach a special education class. There job is a lot harder, in my opinion, than a regular teacher. I am still shocked that the teachers in Akian's class were talking the way they were. "Shut Up" and "You Bastard". They took full advantage of the kids disadvantages. They knew these kids couldn't go back and talk to their parents. It makes me mad just writing this.

What could be worse than this incident? Two of the teachers still work in the school district! WHAT??
THEY SHOULD HAVE BEEN FIRED! You don't talk to kids like that, and you especially do not talk to autistic children like that. Teachers, you are the adult. You are the role-model. We put our faith and trust in you to teach our kids and to take care of our children. These women, pathetic.

I have had some really great teachers, some who in a positive way, really affected my life. However, I have had some really bad teachers as well, even to this day. It just kills me that people like this are able to get jobs as teachers. It's frustrating being a mom of young children. Is this what I have to look forward too when my boys go to school?

A great/good teacher makes all of the difference......I have a story to follow with that later.

I'm sorry to Akian that he had to endure this verbal assault, and for months. I'm sorry that these teachers still have jobs. I do believe in Karma. Kudos to this dad for knowing his son and trusting his intuition that something was going on. No one should ever treat a child like that, especially a TEACHER.  

(excuse me if I jumped around, my emotions were getting the best of me)